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    What Giving Birth Really Feels Like, According to 18 Moms

    Oh, birth! The beautiful gateway for new life coming into the world — or the ninth circle of hell, depending on who you ask. It can be a terrifying, magical, or totally surprising experience. Sometimes it’s all of those things at once. One thing is certain though: it’s completely unique for every woman who goes through it. Cosmopolitan.com asked 18 moms to take their best shot at putting the illusiveness of what giving birth truly feels like into words. Behold!

    1. “Everyone said pushing was the best part, and they were dirty liars. Pushing out a baby feels like taking a giant, fiery poop. Like if you ate 100 hot peppers and then pooped out a watermelon. That’s what it felt like.” —Amy, 32

    ​2. “When I was pushing out my first son, who was born at home, I was certain that the pain I was experiencing would never leave my body, that this feeling was permanent. I thought that a bunch of hippies had duped me into thinking the work would be worth it. But sure enough, it left in an instant and I’d do it a thousand times over.” —Kacie, 34

    3. “Birth is intense. The experience is sort of out-of-body. Time has no meaning. It’ll feel like time is dragging at certain points and then at other times, you’ll look up and suddenly realize hours have passed without your recollection. You also feel like you want to escape your own body — like this fight-or-flight instinct that keeps telling you to look for a way out because it’s so intense — but you can’t.” —Lauren, 31

    ​4. “The whole birthing experience felt really out of control and like someone else had taken over my body. Actually pushing my child out felt like someone was ripping my vagina apart using long, sharp nails that are also on fire. I actually yelled at my midwife to stop using her nails to pull my vagina apart and she told me she wasn’t even touching me!” —Kristen, 34

    5. “Giving birth was like experiencing every feeling and emotion possible. It was one of the most amazing times with my husband and we were given the incredible gift of life. No matter how different it went than we wanted it to, it was awesome! My husband would like to add that he imagines it to feel like ‘sliding down a joy rainbow into a cloud of kittens.’”Katie, 28​

    6. “I had C-sections and I was so scared that I was shaking from head to toe, but my anesthesiologist said he did not want to knock me out so I could remember the moment. They really jerk you back and forth to get the baby out. My son’s head was stuck, but eventually he came out. They rushed him off to clean him so I did not get to see him right away, but instead I got to see him for the first time through my husband’s eyes, and you could see the pride in his face, and it also helped me realize our baby was healthy, beautiful, and things would be fine.” —Jen, 32

    7. “I could do this every day. Honestly it was so much easier to push this baby out than going through these 10 months of pregnancy.” —Lauren, 31​

    ​8. “With my second child, I had an epidural, so giving birth felt like a lot of pressure and almost like you’re giving the biggest B.M. of your life. They say you don’t feel pain, but I almost think your body can’t tell the difference when it’s intense at the end. And afterward, the biggest relief ever. Once that baby is out, phew. You can breathe.” —Katie, 26

    9. “All the things you think birth will feel like will be wrong. I read all the books and thought I was so prepared, but it was way different than what I expected. It was much easier than I expected in some ways, but also a lot harder in other ways (like delivering the placenta afterward).” —Olivia, 26

    10. “Giving birth felt like … I was dying.” —Claire, 33​

    11. “This was our third and I can honestly say it felt ethereal. We have been trained that it is all pain, but coming at it with a different vantage point and desire changed everything. The word ‘pain’ never even crossed my mind. Pressure yes, pain no.” —Anna, 35

    12.”Giving birth to me physically felt similar to breaking my tailbone. When I broke my tailbone, that’s how I knew it was broken, because it felt the same as when I felt the urge to push. So much pressure on my pelvis and tailbone!” —Amanda, 28

    13. “Both my labors were purely back labor, so when people describe contractions as bad menstrual cramps, it never made sense to me. ‘Early’ labor for me feels almost like having intestinal cramping like you get with the stomach flu. When they broke my water, I had flashbacks to my first labor (where my water had broken right away). Those contractions are 100 times worse. Each contraction took all my focus. I arched my back with each one just trying to physically get away from the pain. It felt like someone was pushing forcefully from the inside against my spine and twisting it at the same time. It just made me want to crawl out of my skin. It’s pain I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. It’s by this point in labor that I usually break down in tears and say that I can’t do it anymore. Pushing at this point is a relief in some ways. The pain is still miserable, but pushing seems to ease it. As weird as it sounds, it’s the same physical relief as pooping after you really needed to. By the time you get to the ‘ring of fire’ (which does burn, but mentally made it easier because it signifies the end), it really does feel exactly like pooping, which is weird.” —Melanie, 29

    14. “Natural childbirth felt like fire. Literal fire in my nether regions. I honestly left my body for most of it. I felt like I was looking down on myself from above.” —Lori, 39

    15. “I had back labor with both kids and both were all natural water births. The first birth of my daughter, it felt like my spine was going to break away from my body and the baby was just going to come out my spine and back instead. Her labor was 16 hours and they had to break my water. I was seriously scared to push. I think that being so scared and unsure made transition and pushing longer. After she was born, I felt so drugged even though I hadn’t had anything. I was so incredibly happy. My second birth of our son was so much faster. Six total hours and just three after getting to the hospital. My water never broke and our son was born in the water sack. I couldn’t tell if it was the speed of the birth or the fact that the water sack didn’t break, but the ring of fire seemed less ‘sharp and fiery’ and more ‘dispersed pressure and fiery,’ so that was nice. The back pain was still super intense but the pressure put on my back by my mom and the nurse was more helpful in easing the pain. I didn’t have an out-of-body experience or euphoria this time; I was mainly in disbelief that we actually had two kids now!” —Alicia, 31

    16. “My labors were completely night and day, with the first lasting many days and very intense contractions with little progress upon showing up at the hospital after laboring at home for over 24 hours. Physically, my first labor felt like immense waves of pain flowing over me. I had a lot of back labor, so pain would focus in that area of my body as well. My second labor was much more relaxed and the pain wasn’t all encompassing like the first. I felt the seizing of my abdominal muscles, like a band was wrapped around my middle, and was being squeezed and tightened. With both, I physically shook from head to toe from the endorphins or hormones during the transition stage of labor. Actual birth felt like I was completely outside of myself. I remember crawling up the bed at the hospital (it was in the sitting-up position), almost in an attempt to escape the rush of the contractions. As the head started to come out, full ring-of-fire for a brief moment and a pause before the rest of the body came out.” —Brie, 32

    17. “It feels like a giant charley horse. Everywhere.” —Jen, 37

    18. “I felt all of my contractions completely in my butt, which definitely did not make me feel like a beautiful birthing goddess. Pushing, for me, was unbelievably painful and the part that got me the most was the bone-on-bone feeling as their heads ground down on me through the birth canal. It’s hard to describe, but I just kept imagining I could see their heads pressing down on my pubic bone. It was rough for me personally. And ‘the ring of fire’ pretty much sums up the rest of pushing — no way but through, but that didn’t stop me from physically trying to climb out of the bed with my first. Apparently I lost my mind for a minute although, fortunately, I have no memory of actually doing it.” —Chaunie, 29

    source:   cosmopolitan.com

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    The Impact of Age on Female Fertility

    Older Woman
    One of the most important considerations in successful fertility treatment is the age of the eggs.

    Women are born with eggs that have life, and these eggs age along with it. Menopause (average 51 years) is when the body no longer left to be ovulated eggs, and therefore, the menstrual period.

    The ability to get pregnant decreases with age. Although most women have regular periods in the years before menopause, pregnancy risk is extremely low. In fact, the possibility of pregnancy is only 5% per month at age 40.

    There are two main features of reproductive aging in women – decrease in the number of eggs and decreased egg quality. During the life of a woman, most of the eggs continuously die by a process called atresia. The factors determining the rate of atresia are unknown; However, this constant is independent lifestyle, hormonal influences (birth), and pregnancy. When the number drops too low, ovulation ceases and menopause occurs.

    Regarding fertility, the most critical effect of aging is a decrease in egg quality. As women enter their late 30s and early 40s, most of the ovulated eggs are genetically abnormal. As a result, when these eggs fertilized, is likely to result in embryos that contain genetic abnormalities that are not healthy enough to implement and cause pregnancy. Moreover, even when they do implant, the possibility that a miscarriage occurs is high, rising steadily with advancing maternal age.

    The most convincing in the role of egg quality with infertility test lies in the results of the in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatments with donor eggs. In this case, the eggs of a woman in her 20s is implanted into the patient. Pregnancy and live birth rates are extremely high after egg donation (50% probability of live birth), and correlated with the age of the egg donor rather than the recipient. This example demonstrates how success in fertility treatments is driven largely by maternal age.

    Women seeking pregnancy after age 35 must follow a fertility evaluation if they are unable to conceive after six months. Any anomaly present should be addressed, possibly with targeted therapies. The fertility evaluation page explains what tests are needed and how to program such appointment.

     

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    Baby proofing your home, make your home safe for your baby

    Your job as a parent is to keep your children safe all the time. This job is extremely difficult with babies and if your home has no safety measures for baby proofing.

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    Luckily there are plenty of products and tips that you can learn that will make you r home safer for your baby.

    Will go step by step and you will learn how to babyproof your kitchen, laundry, bathroom, lounge and dining room, stairs, balconies and verandahs.

    So lets go one at a time:

    • Kitchen

    If the layout of your kitchen allows it, erect a barrier across your kitchen’s doorway to prevent your child entering while you cook.

    Use a stove/hot plate guard.

    Ensure that all pot handles and cords don’t overhang the benches and stove avoiding the possibility of your child pulling something down on top of her.

    Keep detergents and cleaning substances out of reach of your child.

    Don’t use a table cloth with young children – one tug and the entire contents of the table can be on the floor and all over them.

    Place child-proof locks on all cupboards and drawers that are in reach of your child.

    •     Laundry

    If you use a nappy bucket, ensure that it is always closed securely as is stored out of reach of your child.

    Store all detergents and bleaches in a locked cupboard that is out of reach of your child.

    Make sure that all buckets are left empty.

     

    • Bathroom

    The bathroom is one of the most dangerous rooms in the house, so never let your child ‘play’ in there and always supervise her when she is in there.

    Young children can drown in a small amount of water!!!

    Always start running a bath by turning on the cold tap first and then adding the hot water to it – your child can easily be scalded by hot water.

    Make sure that the running water in your bathroom cannot exceed 50 degrees.

    Keep all electrical appliances out of the bathroom to avoid possible electrocution.

    Although baby ramps and seats are designed to keep your baby safe in the bath, always supervise as it is possible that she could slide out or tip over.

    When you are bathing your young child, ensure that you have everything you need in the bathroom with you before you start.

    Always store medications in a locked child-proof cupboard that is out of reach.

     

    •  Lounge and dining room

    Put a safety guard around any heaters or open fireplaces you may have.

    Cover all unused power points.

    Make sure that all shelving is secured to a wall or is stable.

    Ensure that any equipment – TV, DVD player, stereo – is stored in a safe and appropriate manner; all cords are tucked away, remote controls are stored out of reach, the cabinet is stable and not top-heavy.

    Store your child’s toys in an accessible and safe place that she can get to without needing your help.

     

    •   Stairs, balconies and verandahs

    You must have a railing on stairs, balconies or verandahs that are higher than 600mm.

    The balustrade on stairs must be at least 865 mm high, unless the drop is greater than 3 metres and then it needs to be 1050mm high; on a verandah or balcony they should be at least 1000 mm high.

    If you have a high balustrade, you should also have a lower handrail that your child can use.

    The gaps between the rails below the balustrade should be no more than 100 mm.

    Place lockable gates at the top and bottom of staircases to avoid the possibility of you child falling on the stairs unsupervised.

    Stairs should have a non-slip surface.

     

     

     

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    US to redefine the Meaning of Term Delivery

    The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologist have given a new definition of term pregnancy which will improve the newborn outcomes and lower the non medically induced deliveries.
    We have new scientifically proven definition of ‘early term,’ ‘full term,’ ‘late term,’ and ‘postterm.’
    Here are the new definitions of ‘term’ deliveries:

    Early Term: Between 37 weeks 0 days and 38 weeks 6 days
    Full Term:   Between 39 weeks 0 days and 40 weeks 6 days
    Late Term:   Between 41 weeks 0 days and 41 weeks 6 days
    Postterm:     Between 42 weeks 0 days and beyond.

    Each gestation week up to 39th week is very important for fetus development and that gives the baby stronger and healthier start.
    Until this study the doctors believed that anywhere between 37 to 42 gestation week will give the baby almost the same health outcomes. But now it is proved otherwise.
    Weeks between are important, this is what the doctors researchers are saying. The doctors now must work by these new rules, the planned non medically induced deliveries never should be in early term, they must watch the weeks. Early term deliveries should be only if there is some medical reason or risk to the mother or the child, and sometimes even earlier deliveries are unavoidable but it is important to know why , is it for medical reasons or for term delivery.

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    I Sold My Eggs For the Money

    When I was 26, out of a carefree and thoughtless boredom and a desire to make some seemingly easy extra money, I filled out an online egg-donor application for a respected clinic in upper Manhattan. At the time, I was working full-time as an office manager, I lived with my boyfriend, and I was a month away from the publishing date of my first book of poetry. Sure, I was a few thousand dollars in debt from a more carefree time in my life, but things were for-the-time-being extremely stable in my life, and the single-page online application was uncomplicated enough to fill out in the middle of my workday without much thought: Yes, I have both ovaries; no, I don’t have chlamydia or gonorrhea; no, I am not currently prescribed any antidepressants.

    A week later, I received a form-like email that invited me to fill out a second application: a massive, 60-page questionnaire that asked detailed questions about my family history (how tall was your great-grandfather on your mother’s side? What was his complexion? Is he dead, and how did it happen?); my personal goals (oh, I’ve always known I wanted to become a writer, except for a brief stint in the second grade when I wanted to become a squirrel); and what I would like to say to my future-child, if given the chance, though it was also made extremely clear that as a donor I would be completely anonymous. I would never get the chance to meet the future-baby, and the birth mother would never know my name or see the baby pictures that I included with the second application. The clinic wanted to know I was a nice young lady, even though I didn’t actually need to be.

    And then, I was in. Over the next two months, I visited the clinic for even more tests. These included: a 650-question true-or-false personality test that was filled with queries regarding whether I heard voices in my head before falling asleep, whether I became suspicious of my friends if they were being too nice to me, or whether I thought my dad was a good person. I completed a physical and multiple blood and urine tests to screen for drug use and any physical and genetic disorders. I met with the in-house psychologist who explained very plainly and repeatedly that even though I was providing my eggs to create a human, this was not my baby. I nodded along, signed some papers, and a couple of weeks later, I was matched with a mom.

    Sure, I was a few thousand dollars in debt from a more carefree time in my life, but things were for-the-time-being extremely stable in my life, and the single-page online application was uncomplicated enough to fill out in the middle of my workday without much thought: Yes, I have both ovaries; no, I don’t have chlamydia or gonorrhea; no, I am not currently prescribed any antidepressants.

    We were both put on the same birth control to sync our cycles. While she didn’t know my name or what I looked liked, she knew I was a college graduate, average weight for my height, and half-Korean.

    Around this time, I noticed a shift in my emotional balance. I started crying almost daily at work and picking fights with my boyfriend. I couldn’t tell if it was the hormonal birth control or if it was just me, in that moment. Then, after about a month on birth control and a particularly messy cry in the women’s bathroom, I quit my job, to my and my boss’s surprise. I told them my boyfriend had gotten a job in LA and that we were moving there next month. This was partly true—he and I did plan on moving to LA for new work, but not until the end of summer. The imminent payoff from donating my eggs led to a disregard for my finances.

    After almost two months, I was taken off birth control, and I was ready to start the next step of the donor process. I was given three different hormone and hormone antagonists, Gonal F, Menopur, and Ganirelix, which all had to be injected into my belly fat at precise times every day. These drugs would temporarily shut down my ovulation and stimulate my ovaries to begin producing a high number of follicles. On the first day, I laid out all the various syringes, fluids, gauze, and alcohol pads on my desk at home, in disbelief that they trusted me to perform these injections daily for two weeks. I iced the injection site, my heart racing nervously; I was afraid. My boyfriend watched as I brought the needle closer to my skin. I pressed in, pushed down on the syringe, waited five seconds, and pulled out. It’s in! I did it. I can keep doing this.

    After day one, the injections became sort of fun—a masochistic, mechanical new purpose in my life. I watched as my stomach collected tiny galaxy-like bruises and pinpricks as it fell victim to my shaky, inexperienced hands. During a normal menstrual cycle, only one of the follicles in the ovaries will make it to full maturity as the body prepares itself for ovulation. With the hormones I was injecting, I was tricking my body into maturing multiple follicles so that the recipient would have a better chance of becoming pregnant. My ovaries began swelling to an unnatural state, which I was able to see at my daily sonogram and blood-work checkups. “Aaaand there are your eggs, they’re growing spectacularly,” the doctor would say, as they moved the ultrasound probe inside of me to show blobs of follicles on the screen, each measuring about 18 millimeters in diameter toward the end. I felt like a proud momma spider showing off her egg sac.

    Most of my girlfriends asked how I was feeling during the whole process, which I replied to relatively positively. I was achy and slow, but only mildly. I wasn’t allowed to drink, do drugs, exercise, or have sex. It was pretty OK, other than the feeling of being weighed down from the most central and sensitive part of myself.

    Halfway through the injections, my boyfriend of nearly two years and I broke up, somewhat mutually. While it feels too easy to blame the “dissolution of Us” on the foreign hormones in my body, it would be reckless to ignore the fact that over the past six months I had focused a lot of my attention on my egg-farming endeavor. Though he was and remained completely supportive of my decision to donate throughout the entire process, he was going to move to LA alone, and I felt sad that the end of our relationship was marked by a Me who didn’t really feel like the outgoing and positive-minded Me that I was for most of the relationship.

    After 13 days of hormone injections, it was finally time for the retrieval. This involves a needle that is passed through the top of the vagina and into the follicles inside the ovaries, where the eggs are then very literally sucked out of the donor. The anesthesiologist explained that afterward, I might experience some discomfort similar to menstrual cramps for the next few hours. She inserted an IV into the top of my hand and walked me to my hospital bed inside the retrieval room, where I nearly immediately fell asleep. Half an hour later, I woke up in a different room, was handed apple juice and some graham crackers, and texted my now-ex-boyfriend in the waiting room some gibberish that included not knowing where I was or if the procedure was over. I felt nauseated from the anesthesia. An hour later, I was on the train home.

    The nurse was right—I did feel achy for the next few hours. What she didn’t tell me was that these pangs would evolve into some sort of body-defying monster cramps that would gurgle and internally rev constantly without any release, bloating me to the point of popping so that I had to wobble from room to room, wincing if I stepped down too hard, which sent a jolt of pain from my foot, through my vagina, and up into my now-empty-but-still-very-swollen ovaries. If I ate something small or drank a little water, my stomach and bladder would become full immediately because there was less room for them inside of me now. I made frequent, painful trips to pee, but after 24 hours of not shitting, I thought, Let me Google this. It turns out that the post-egg-retrieval bloating and constipation I was experiencing were part of a fun game that in-vitro-fertilization doctors seem to love playing on their egg donors and prospective mothers, in that they DON’T TELL THEM ABOUT IT. Nearly every woman on every forum I found was also suffering from mild to severe forms of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS), a medical condition that affects nearly one in four women on fertility medication, and they were furious, yet relieved, to find that others were experiencing the same pain and discomfort that they were.

    As someone who has struggled with body image and weight issues her entire life, it was horrifying for me to see my stomach puffed out and solid, like a kickball made of brick. I wanted to be punctured and deflated and thrown away. I immediately stocked up on Fiber 1 cereal and bottles of dusty bodega prune juice to help me feel some semblance of the nonpregnant woman I knew I was inside. Every step, meal, and attempted bowel movement was agonizing, and I could sleep only on my back because my breasts were so heavy and tender. The $8,000 started to look laughable as I thought of the 6:30 a.m. train rides from my apartment in Brooklyn to the Upper East Side that I took weekly and then daily. It seemed extremely not worth it as I looked at my body in the days after the retrieval and recognized only hate toward its weakness. The emotions that I felt on the comedown of the hormones were brutal and worse than anything leading up to it.

    The $8,000 started to look laughable as I thought of the 6:30 a.m. train rides from my apartment in Brooklyn to the Upper East Side that I took weekly and then daily. It seemed extremely not worth it as I looked at my body in the days after the retrieval and recognized only hate toward its weakness.

    But even with all the whining and discomfort, in my more clearheaded moments, I thought, So what? I did this voluntarily, right? I made it out eventually. I got paid.

    Before the retrieval, it was easy to recommend the process to other women. You are helping a couple achieve something beautiful that they are unable to do alone. You are compensated, and nothing hurts that badly. Immediately after, however, it felt irresponsible and senseless to recommend that anyone willingly offer up their stable life and well-being to months of emotional and physical damage.

    Egg retrieval is a relatively new science, so there aren’t any long-term studies on its effects yet. Because I don’t plan on ever conceiving children of my own, the rumors and unstudied risks I heard about future infertility didn’t bother me. I knew I couldn’t “run out of eggs” since women are born with all the eggs we’re ever going to have (about two million). But instead of routinely bleeding out the immature egg follicles like usual, I harvested and sold them for $8,000.

    The paycheck was the only thing I cared about when I filled out the very first application. Then it became an unrealistic bonus at the end, one I sort of imagined I would never actually receive. It became less about the money during the process and more like I was playing the role of an Employed Fertile Human Body for an Intangible Future Mother. I felt jaded in a way that removed me from why I was doing it — I just was. And I had to keep going.

    By the end of the process, I had learned more about the morals of donating and the effects of the hormones inside of my body, but the money was, whether at the forefront of my conscience or periodically backlogged, always my driving force and will. I struggled only a little with the ethics of reaping my otherwise nonexistent follicles so that someone could pay to create their biological child when this money could undoubtedly be used to adopt one who already existed. This mental spawn warfare was short-lived when I remembered my credit-card debt and how if it wasn’t me, it would only be someone else.

    Sarah Jean Alexander wrote a book of poetry called Wildlives (Big Lucks 2015), and she lives, laughs, loves, and drinks in Brooklyn.

    source : elle.com

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    Learning About Strangers – Educating Our Children Without Scaring Them

    What provoked this “talking to strangers” conversation with my children?  It was months ago when a high risk pedophile moved about a mile from our family.  The man charged had kidnapped a child and harmed him.  As a community we were scared and upset.  We started petitions to help tighten Vermont laws that allowed these offenders into our state and neighborhoods.  They faded.  We posted pictures of him around town and at the beginning of nearby trail heads.  They were taken down.  It was two weeks ago, that he and two of his housemates showed up at our multi-family garage sale.  I knew it was him in my heart, but suppressed the urge to speak up.  How could this sex offender be on my private property?  After we all identified him our anger grew.  We had ten children of varying ages running around the house and felt violated.  I needed to start educating my children about talking to strangers.  However, I didn’t want to scare them or make them think they couldn’t talk to people we didn’t know.

    I started the conversation with Avery, my five year old daughter, by asking, “what is a stranger?” and  “who can you go somewhere with?”  We went through our family and friends and who she was allowed to be with if I was not present.  The discussion led to the difference between safe and dangerous strangers.  I gave her examples that policemen, teachers, firemen,and  managers of a store were examples of safe strangers.  These were adults that she could go to if help was needed.  We then talked about what a “gut feeling” meant.  I told her that our minds and bodies know when something is wrong.  We need to trust and listen to ourselves.  This meant that if we feel something is different or harmful about a person or a situation then we need to leave or sound our alarm (our voice) and let those around us know that we are in a dangerous situation.  It was actually a pretty light conversation eventhough I was sweating and my heart was pounding the entire time.  How could I already be having this conversation with my child?  She just started kindergarten.  I had her repeat these actions and thoughts back to me so I knew that she understood.   Over the next couple of weeks, I’d randomly bring things up and see what she thought or listen to her response.

    Later on, I reached for our good time friends, the Bernstein Bears.  Their book is called: “The Bernstein Bears Learn about Strangers.”  Brother and Sister bear are such old friends and always there to drive home any point in a fun and helpful way.  This story gives a great lesson about strangers.  My favorite is when Mama and Papa Bear cut open a beautiful, red apple only to find it worm eaten and unedible.  Everything is not always as it appears and this is the same for strangers.  This book helped in a very kid-friendly way.  If you didn’t want to purchase the hard or soft copy then consider the kindle version or download the book onto your computer.

    There is so much more to say.  I hope these tips have shed some light and can help pave the way to starting these conversations with your children.  It’s never too early…

    Tips for helping your child understand a “bad” stranger:

    1- Anyone that makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable.  We say that the person creates a “YUCKY” feeling inside of our bodies and minds and makes us feel funny.

    2- They can be pretty or ugly looking, it doesn’t matter.  Their looks do not make them safe.

    3- An adult that your child does not know will never ask them for help.  My daughter loves dogs.  I gave her the example of being at the playground and a stranger coming up to her and asking if she’d help them go look for their dog.


    Tips for helping your child understand a “safe” stranger:

    1- Let your child know that if they are lost its okay to approach “safe” strangers, such as; policemen, teachers, and people who own local business’ like a restaurant.

    2- They should always ask for help in a public place.

    3- Point out safe strangers to them in your community so, that they understand who they are.


    Understanding a Dangerous Situation:

    1- Suspicious Behavior.  If an adult asks them to disobey their parents or do something without permission.

    2- If an adult asks them to keep a secret.

    3- If an Adult asks them for help. A good scenario is; ” Can you help me find my dog?”

    4- No, Go, Yell, and Tell Rule. It’s okay to tell an adult “NO” if they make you feel uncomfortable, run away as fast as you can, yell and scream as loud as you can, and then tell your parent what has happened.


    Empowering your Children to understand their Kid Power:

    1- Trust your instincts.  If a person or situation makes you feel funny then you need to leave right away and go find a parent or adult that you trust

    2- Letting your parents know where you are at all times.

    3- Pointing out together safe places; paths, sidewalks, and trails.  These are places to run to if you are in danger.

    4- Be Assertive.  Yelling and screaming “No” as loud as you can will alert others that you are in danger.

    5- Play in Numbers.  Always have a buddy!

    6- The rules are different if you are with an adult who is taking care of you rather then being on your own. When they are on their own, their job is to check first with the adult in charge before letting a stranger get close to them, talk to them, or give them anything. (this is for an older child that could be left alone)

    7- Do not give personal information to a stranger or to someone who makes you feel uncomfortable

    8- Know and understand your family’s safety rules for answering the door, being on the phone, and playing on the internet.

    source : modernmom.com

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    Are they the world’s most relaxed moms? What we can all learn from the Dutch.

    Studies have found that Dutch children are the happiest kids in the world and that their mothers are pretty happy, too. After seven years of living among them, I think there’s a pretty good chance they may also be the most relaxed moms in the world.

    I moved to the Netherlands with a 3- and 1-year-old and quickly added a third child to the mix. Since then I’ve clocked up many hours at the park and school pick-ups and am easy to spot. I don’t just stand out physically among the impossibly tall, blonde and svelte Dutch moms, but I also seem to be the only one even remotely frazzled.

    Whether balancing multiple kids on their bike or letting a 3-year-old’s tantrum play itself out, Dutch moms manage to keep their cool. I’ve yet to spot a Dutch mom raising her voice at her children. Relaxed isn’t code for uninvolved or absent, either. Dutch mothers, in my observation, enjoy being around their kids, listen to their opinions, give constructive direction and prioritize family time. And they never seem to be strung out.

    So what’s their secret? And is it something that can be learned?

    Living in one of the most densely populated countries in Europe it’s pretty hard to ignore your neighbors, not to mention the famed Dutch aversion to curtains. Despite the lack of privacy there is very little sense of keeping up with the Joneses — or the de Vrieses, as the case may be. As a result, parents aren’t pulled into a vortex where each birthday party needs to be bigger and better than the last, or where clothes will determine social standing at school. Kids’ parties are simple and, most importantly, gezellig (cozy). They are usually celebrated at home with a small circle of friends and spending around 10 euros ($11) on a gift is perfectly acceptable. Since moving here I’ve only once had my daughter come home from school and ask for a particular brand of sneakers, and I suspect it was only because they were (hideously) rhinestone-encrusted.

    One of the biggest things I’ve noticed since moving to the Netherlands is that children aren’t held up as a reflection of their parents. Little Janneke’s or Joost’s accomplishments (or shortcomings) aren’t judged as a product of their parenting. I was taken aback when a Dutch parent casually mentioned how her son was smarter than a friend of his. It wasn’t the fact she offered this information that surprised me, but the way she delivered it: matter of fact, devoid of ego and without a hint of subtext that this somehow made her son better than his friends.

    The saying that best encapsulates the Dutch approach to life is “doe maar gewoon, dan doe je al gek genoeg” or roughly “just act normal, that’s crazy enough.” In a culture where people aren’t encouraged to stand out or be different, pressure on children to be exceptional is also reduced. Homework is unusual in Dutch primary schools and students have one afternoon a week off school, which means kids have lots of time and space to be … kids.  Dutch children are given lots of autonomy and the freedom to explore, while parents aren’t burdened with the expectation that their child has to be the best in order to succeed.

    If that isn’t enough, the Dutch have figured out another huge part of being able to keep your sanity as a mom: Part-time work. More than 70 percent of Dutch women work part-time, and are happy to do so. Part-time work may well be the not-so-secret ingredient to staying calm and relaxed as a mom. It gives Dutch women the freedom to stay engaged in the workplace, earn money and nurture a professional identity while still having time to meet a friend for coffee. By removing the worry of losing your identity to motherhood, or the stress of not being able to remember the last time you were home before 10 p.m., working part-time makes it that much easier to enjoy the time you have with your kids.

    The Dutch social welfare state also provides an important safety net that takes a lot of pressure off parents and kids alike. Schools are free, or close to it, compulsory health insurance covers a huge chunk of medical and hospital expenses and Dutch parents even get an quarterly stipend from the government to help cover the costs of raising a child. This system gives parents the freedom to work part-time, and takes the pressure off parents to see their kids succeed at school or suffer the consequences as adults.

    Some parts of the calm and steady Dutch approach to parenting are ingrained in their DNA and remain as elusive to me as their long legs and cycling prowess. The Dutch are naturally very emotionally regulated. You’re not going to see the same outbursts of expression here that you’ll find in much of Southern Europe. It may not sound like a great compliment to bestow on a nation, but being emotionally level is a huge help in patiently dealing with children’s meltdowns and not resorting to warnings involving numbers. Or at least this is what I tell myself at the playground as I give my kids just one more chance … again.

    source:  washingtonpost.com

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    Allergies and Early Childhood

    Baby Photo
    For decades, parents have protected children from bacteria and other potential triggers of the disease, allergies and asthma.

    But a surprising new study suggests that exposure to cat dander, a wide variety of household bacteria – and even rodent and cockroach allergens – can help protect infants against future allergies and wheezing..

    Interestingly, contact with bacteria and dandruff after 1 year of age was not protective – it actually increases the risk. “It was the opposite of what we expected,” said Dr. Robert Wood, chief of the division of allergy and immunology at Johns Hopkins Children’s Center and co-author of the study in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology. “We are promoting bringing rodents and cockroaches in the house, but this data suggests that being too clean can not be good.”

    The new findings could help explain some inconsistencies in research on so-called hygiene hypothesis, which suggested that children who grow up in a super clean environment were more likely to develop allergies.

    “This is not completely solve the dispute, but adds a large piece of the puzzle,” said Dr. Jonathan Spergel, professor of pediatrics and chief of allergy at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.

    The hygiene hypothesis was developed after the researchers noted that farm kids were less likely to have allergies. Dirty environments, experts suggested, may have a protective effect. The hypothesis seemed to explain why developed countries had triggered the rates of allergies and asthma.

    “We are promoting bringing rodents and cockroaches in the house, but this data suggests that being too clean can not be good.”

    The theory “is that as we clean up our environment, our immune system is oriented away towards the fight against bacteria and parasites,” said Dr. Maria Garcia Lloret, assistant clinical professor of pediatric allergy and immunology at the Hospital Mattel children at the University of California, Los Angeles. “So it has nothing to do and starts reacting against things that are generally harmless, such as dust mites or cat dander or cockroaches or peanuts.”

    A crack in the hygiene hypothesis seemed to be the high rates of allergy and asthma in environments city center. But the new study may help explain the contradictions, showing that early exposure is crucial.

    “It’s all about exposure to the right people at the right time bacteria,” Spergel said.

    Wood and colleagues followed 467 infants for three years, selecting them for allergies a year and test house dust allergens and bacteria where they lived. To the surprise of researchers, children who were exposed before their first birthday mouse and cat dander with cockroach droppings had lower rates of allergies and wheezing at 3 years compared with those who were not exposed so early .
    In fact, wheezing was three times more common among children with less exposure to allergens early in life.

    The protective effect of early exposure to allergens is amplified if the house also contained a wide variety of bacteria.

    The reason may be that “much of the development of the immune system that can take someone down the road of allergies and asthma can be ruled early in life,” Wood said.

    Researchers are not willing to try to translate new findings into practical advice for parents. But Lloret said, we now know that the “strict avoidance of allergens from the beginning does not protect, and early exposure in context can make the difference between illness and tolerance. You could say that this is the downside of cleaning “.

    The new findings could put head experts have been giving advice to parents about pets and babies.

    “Twenty years I used to say to parents for cats and dogs in the household ago,” Wood said. “This shows that the younger a child is when you get a pet, the better.”

     

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    Cannabis Oil To Be Used In A Hospital! Finally!

    Amylea, is a cute baby girl, who was born in Aurora, CO. her parents Ernie and Nicole Nunez, tell us what happened when they brought the baby home.
    She said: “About a day after we went home from delivery is when she had her first seizure. She has a rare form of epilepsy. They have no idea exactly the type.”

    They are really in despair to find a suitable method for the life of their child. The physicians in Albuquerque, New Mexico, didn’t manage to find the reason and appropriate method to treat it so they decided to go to Colorado.

    These days, the mum is in Aurora, and Ernie is travelling since they have more children to take care of. To halt the seizures, the doctors pursued on prescribing the same combination of drugs. However, this drugs cocktail has negative effects on its own.

    Se they finally came to a conclusion they want to try cannabis oil. Ernie said:
    “The medication she’s on is hard for her liver, therefore we’re aiming to do something different that’s not so bad on her body.”

    They checked Charlotte’s Web and realized that this treatment has amazing effects so it became hopeful for them that after all, there is a cure for the child.
    Charlotte’s Web had that name because of a girl, Charlotte Figi, a girl treated with cannabis oil She had a first seizure when she was a baby, 3-months old and more seizures came in the following period which were more frequent and were two to four hours lasting. SO this girl was always in hospital. She started the treatment with cannabis and she was saved. Since then, cannabis oil has been used many more times with other children.

    Nicole said:
    “I sat for a good 3 weeks fighting with the doctors and trying to talk them into giving me the okay. I have actually been working with the case study team and the neurology group here at children’s and I’m enthusiastic this will work.”
    In the end, the doctors agreed to treat Amylea with cannabis oil.
    She added: “For us to get the approval for us to administer it while she in the NICU while she’s a patient … it’s like a miracle. Because they were entirely against it saying, ‘No you cannot do it, you have to wait until she’s an out-patient.”

    So the physicians gave permission for the cannabis oil to be used, but the parents were those who had to apply it. She started receiving just a little and improvement was there. Parents say that this is definitely the youngest person to ever try marijuana oil in a hospital.
    This shows that cannabis is definitely a practical medical solution, and is completely unreasonable that the government has it categorized as a Schedule 1 drug. This plant can successfully treat cancer, epilepsy, and other severe illnesses.

    In a research, reported by The Free Thought Project, it was found out that the oil can successfully treat epilepsy which is intractable. 261 patients were included, and the number of seizures was reduced to 45%.
    Additionally, 9% didn’t have seizures at all for 3 months. When the study ended, there were children who continued with the treatment, for several more months.

    So it is very important that awareness among people is raised about how real and positive cannabis oil is even for the most severe and deadliest illnesses of modern time, and it is forbidden because of immoral reasons.

     

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    With this 10 week workout plan there will be no need to go to the gym again!

    In this article we are going to show you how to lose weight, gains muscle and get fit. And you don’t even have to go to the hospital because you can do it at home.
    This is actually a workout plan for 10 weeks that will help you achieve the best shape of your body ever!

    All you need to do is:

    First, you should drink a lot of water. Then, you should choose the right time of the day to work out and of course the day when you are going to start. After that, you must regularly work out according to this plan:

    Monday:
    20 squats; fifteen-second plank; 25 crunches; 35 jumping jacks; 15 lunges; twenty-five second wall-sit; 10 sit-ups; 10 butt-kicks and 5 push-ups

    Tuesday:
    10 squats; thirty-second plank; 20 crunches; 10 jumping jacks; 25 lunges; forty-five second wall-sit; 35 sit-ups; 20 butt-kicks; 10 push-ups

    Wednesday:
    15 squats; forty-second plank; 30 crunches; 50 jumping jacks; 25 lunges; thirty-five-second wall-sit; 30 sit-ups; 25 butt-kicks; and 10 push-ups

    Thursday:
    35 squats; thirty-second slab; 20 crunches; 25 jumping jacks; 15 lunges; sixty-sec. wall-sit; 50 sit-ups; 35 butt-kicks; and 20 push-ups;

    Friday:
    25 squats; sixty-sec. slab; 30 crunches; 55 leaping jacks; 60 lunges; 45-sec. wall-sits; 40 sit-ups; 50 butt-kicks; and 30 push-ups

    Saturday and Sunday– rest day

    Cardio- by week:

    • 1st- 30 sec. sprint and 30 sec. jog/ 5x;
    • 2nd- 35 sec. sprint and 45 sec. jog/ 6x;
    • 3rd-45 sec. sprint and 1 minutes. jog/ 7x;
    • 4th-50 sec. sprint and 45 sec. jog/ 8x;
    • 5th-55 sec. sprint and 30 sec. jog/ 7x;
    • 6th-1 minutes. sprint and 45 sec. jog/ 6x;
    • 7th-65 sec. sprint and 1 minutes. jog/ 5x;
    • 8th-70 sec. sprint and 45 sec. jog/ 6x;
    • 9th-75 sec. sprint and 30 sec. jog/ 7x;
    • 10th-80 sec. sprint and 45 sec. jog/ 8x.

     

    How much should you exercise in order to lose weight?

    The ideal training is from 45 minutes to 1 hour, but this is different for everyone and it depends on the weight they want to lose.
    Try to exercise more than 3 hours a week and do exercises with moderate intensity. Beginners should start with 50 minutes and gradually reach 200 minutes.

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    10 Ways to Clean Yellow Teeth Naturally

    There is no doubt that keeping your dental and oral health optimal is a must. Among the many dental and oral health issues, yellow and stained teeth seem to still grab the center attention.

    Discolored or yellow teeth can be a result of various causes but doesn’t necessarily mean there is a medical issue at hand. For now, let’s introduce ourselves to the factors which make the teeth turn yellow in color, lose color or change color.

    Extrinsic Strains.

    When the tooth enamel is affected by an outside factor, you could experience extrinsic stains. Some of the main cause of this may be the diet you are practicing, basic lifestyle routines. For instance, overconsumption of alcohol, tobacco, wine, and coffee can lead to teeth stains which tend to linger on.

    Other foods which can contribute to teeth discoloration and staining include dark chocolate, sauces, fruit juice, balsamic vinegar, and berry fruits.

    Intrinsic Stains.

    Unlike extrinsic stains, intrinsic stains happen within the tooth dentin or the tissue which makes the tooth what it is. Some of the factors which can lead to these stains include insufficient or improper oral hygiene, meds, and especially antibiotics. On top of all, intrinsic stains can be a direct result of prescribed mouthwash solutions, such as chlorhexidine gluconate.

    Yellow Teeth: Other Causes

    Aside from the aforementioned, there are a number of other factors which can turn white teeth into yellow. Some of these include:

    — Genetics – it is likely that if one of your parents or grandparents suffered yellow teeth, so will you.

    — Smoking – tobacco is especially harmful to the teeth, especially when combined with

    — Carbonated and sparkling drinks, including sodas, energy drinks, and alcohol (champagne).

    — Fluorosis, a condition caused by excess fluoride coming into contact with the teeth.

    — Accidents, where the tooth’s interior was damaged.

    — Teeth grinding, which can not only lead to teeth discoloration but teeth cracking and damage, too.

    Whiten Yellow Teeth Naturally

    1. Baking soda and Hydrogen Peroxide.

    With first results coming in six weeks, mix 1 tablespoon of baking soda and 2 tablespoons of hydrogen peroxide, thus creating a paste. Use this paste to brush the teeth with it for 2-3 minutes. Don’t go overboard with this paste, as baking soda may damage the enamel.

    2. Activated Charcoal.

    Great for removing stains, infections, and bacteria from the teeth use charcoal to brush the teeth for 2 minutes daily. To those with more sensitive teeth, activated charcoal can be rather abrasive so it may not be an ideal option for your case.

    3. Apple Cider Vinegar.

    Before using ACV, rinse the mouth well. Mix 2 teaspoons of apple cider vinegar into 5 ounces of water and gargle with the mix for 20-30 seconds.

    4. Coconut Oil Pulling.

    Able to remove tartar, plaque, and bacteria from the teeth, swish 1-2 teaspoons of coconut oil in the mouth for at least 10 minutes. The same effects can be also achieved with sesame oil.

    5. Water-Rich Fruits.

    Fruits containing plenty of water, like oranges, watermelon, melon, and grapes can clean the teeth and whiten them properly. At the same time, these help remove food stuck in the teeth and bacteria inside the oral cavity.

    6. Fruit Peels.

    Lemon, apple, banana and orange peels are amazing for whitening the teeth, all due to d-limonene, a health-boosting compound. To get the best effects, rub a peel of any of these fruits onto the teeth for 2 minutes, followed by a thorough rinse which will get rid of fruit-caused acid in the mouth.

    7. Vegetables.

    Much like fruit, veggies like carrots and celery are able to remove bacteria from the mouth and fight yellow teeth stains.

    8. Whitening Kits.

    Ranging from $10-$50 per kit, these over-the-counter whitening tools can get you the desired bleaching effect.

    9. Brushing and Flossing.

    Both incredibly important to the teeth, brushing, and flossing are able to prevent teeth discoloration. Detailed brushing and covering all surfaces in a must, followed by a thorough flossing session and a good mouthwash rinse. Optimally, you should brush at least twice a date, for at least two minutes.

    10. Dental Exams.

    Making regular dental appointments can track the cause for your teeth discoloration, with your doctor being able to give you exact instructions on how to maintain the teeth healthy.

    Sources:
    www.powerofpositivity.com
    www.colgate.com

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    Science Explains What Happens To Your Body When You Don’t Poop Every Day

    Constipation is a common, yet continuously threatening condition. The inability to process foods can inflame the intestines, which then creates blockages in the bowel, hence the constipation. Characterized by severe pain, bleeding, and discomfort, constipation can pose a serious threat to your health.

    Dehydration, poor dieting, and insufficient exercise make some of the factors which can trigger constipation.

    Still, speaking of the importance of dealing with constipation is an urgent matter, as most don’t realize what the body suffers when constipation strikes. In an effort to shed light on the subject, here is how your body can react when affected by constipation.

    Severe Constipation and Its Symptoms on the Body!

    1. Hemorrhoids

    Being unable to poop every day can easily upset the entire bowel movement. When we don’t poop regularly, our body muscles tense, making it impossible for fecal material to leave the body.

    In addition, the veins regulating the release of poop can become inflamed and overstretched, which then makes their performance weaker, or nonexistent.

    2. Poor Appetite

    People who don’t go ‘number two’ often, can face some form of an appetite loss. As the body is unable to process and eliminate fecal material naturally, it begins to suppress your appetite instead. Shortly put, if you don’t eat anything, you’ll have nothing to process and eliminate.

    3. Skin Issues

    Although seemingly odd, constipation can lead to a variety of skin issues. From puffiness, zits, and breakouts to rashes, acne and dark bags under your eyes, constipation takes its tall for sure.

    As the flora in your gut is upset, your skin will be the first to misbehave, showing you an obvious indication of constipation.

    4. Headaches

    Stress can not only cause constipation but can have the condition manifest through headaches. As pooping is a normal body process, headaches occur when there is an issue in releasing the toxic material.

    Also, the physical effort you put into fighting constipation can cause headaches with ease. Finally, these types of migraines can have to do with dehydration, which is yet another constipation cause.

    5. Bad Breath

    A Danish study explained that constipation can cause a bad breath, seen in 25 percent of the people studies, all of whom experienced constipation in some form.

    Not just this one, but other studies, too, explain how bad breath is common for individuals suffering constipation, which is sort of…yuck?!

    6. Anal Fissures

    The pressure to release feces can cause a tearing in the anal ring. Medically, this condition is known as anal fissure. The side effects of it include bleeding, pain in the area and an itching sensation.

    Also, fissures make it harder for the toxins to leave the body and can aggravate constipation even further. In both adults and children, it is best to seek medical help should the condition worsen.

    7. Impaction

    As the stool cannot leave the gut, you are likely to experience congestion. Also, in such cases, the stool becomes thicker and harder, thus creating a hurdle.

    Of course, this hurts the colon and large intestines, which cannot hold the waste trapped for a longer time. Some of the side effects of impaction include pain and vomiting, which may urge you to the hospital.

    8. Rectal Prolapse

    The rectum connects the colon and the anus, and in cases of constipation, it obstructs the bowel movement and can stretch out the anus, making it to the surface.

    Although commonly only part of the rectum protrude to the outside, severe forms of constipation can push the entire rectum outside the body.

    9. Loss of Fecal Control

    Voluntarily passing the stool can become an impossibility in cases of constipation. This mostly happens with applying pressure on the anus, thus damaging the nearby nerves and weakening the muscles.

    This can also lead to a harder stool or an overly-leaking stool, but a loss of fecal control nonetheless.

    10. Fatigue.

    Constipation and fatigue go hand in hand. In some cases, fatigue and constipation combined can indicate an additional health problem happening in the body. The biggest reason for this is malnutrition or malabsorption of nutrients in the gut.

    11. Bladder Control

    The bladder and colon are more connected than we care to believe. In fact, the colon may pressure the bladder, an occurrence which can very well lead to leaks or urges to the bathroom.

    In other cases, there is a danger of damaging the pelvic floor muscles, which will affect proper bladder control even more.

    What Causes Constipation?

    Constipation can have many causes, some of which we mentioned above. Along with dehydration and physical strain, some of the remaining causes of constipation include:

    • Pain meds
    • Antidepressants
    • Anticonvulsants
    • Excessive consumption of iron supplements
    • Calcium-blocking meds
    • Aluminum-rich antacids
    • Choosing to withhold poop instead of going to the bathroom regularly
    • Low-fiber diet
    • Laxatives
    • Certain hormonal imbalances.

    Medically neglected, constipation is not a light condition, and may even require medical attention. Having in mind all these facts, pooping regularly and eating right will definitely result in a healthier gut, intestines and bowel movement.

    Sоurces:
    www.powerofpositivity.com
    www.medicinenet.com

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